Thousands of internet commenters were quick to call out one partner for refusing to intervene when their mother began insulting their husband and his mother.
In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/Genuinely-Optimistic (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said their husband and mother have long had a toxic relationship and detailed how tensions nearly boiled over at a recent Mother’s Day celebration.
Titled, “[Am I the a**hole] for telling my husband it’s time to hash things out with my mom?” the post has received more than 5,700 votes and 2,300 comments in the last 12 hours.
Beginning with the explanation that their husband and mother “fight constantly,” the original poster said their mother often instigates confrontations, prompting their husband to quickly escalate the situation.
“It’s exhausting for the entire family, and they don’t even fight over something worthy, they just nitpick each other’s words,” OP wrote. “My husband told me many times that the solution would be that he stops going with me over to my mom’s house [but] I refused this solution because it’s not practical nor is it fit for [the] long term.”
On Sunday, the original poster said their family convened at their mother’s house for a Mother’s Day dinner. During the meal, the original poster said their mother relentlessly spewed insults about their husband’s mother.
“Mom noticeably started commenting on my husband’s mother implying that she hated her children and isn’t proud to be a mom,” OP wrote. “My husband wanted to respond but [I] whispered to him to let it go and stay calm.”